I Can't Afford a Divorce Battle in Court-What Can I Do?

Regardless of why your marriage is ending, we can all agree on one thing:

Court battles are costly, difficult, and painful experiences.

Ultimately, you don’t want to fight your way through your divorce—you likely want to get it over with as quickly and smoothly as possible. That’s how many people are in your position. Unfortunately, miscommunication, tension, and other issues lead to expensive, drawn-out litigation.

That’s why you need mediation.

Accomplish Your Goals Without a Single Court Date

As a Quincy divorce attorney, my clients are often suffering through the toughest circumstances of their lives. Their families are splitting apart, and they have to answer questions that will affect their world for years to come: questions about child custody, alimony, child support, property division, and more.

If there was a way to answer all these questions without fighting, with minimal tension, and with utmost maturity—especially if children are involved—wouldn’t you want that? That’s precisely what mediation offers.

Here’s how it works:

Two parties (representing you and your spouse) meet with a mediator—a neutral 3rd party whose only job is to facilitate communication between both parties. The mediator’s job is to take two people, sometimes with conflicting goals, and help them come to an agreement.

The mediator does not write the agreement. The mediator does not choose sides. Most importantly, the mediator ensures that both sides are communicating clearly and honestly with one another. His or her only duty is to make sure you both are clear on the terms of your agreement as you negotiate.

Now, having an experienced divorce attorney is recommended—after all, few people understand the long-term effects of divorce agreements like divorce lawyers. In mediation, however, lawyers serve as your negotiators and advisors, not as your combatants. We are still advocates, but in a collaborative sense.

Save Yourself Money, Time, & Heartache

The benefits of mediation could be a blog post on its own—there are too many to explain thoroughly. To begin with, mediation puts the control of your divorce squarely in your and your spouse’s hands. Mediated agreements have the ability to be flexible and innovative because they’re not being mandated by a judge—it’s being crafted by you, for your specific circumstances.

In addition, you and your spouse can split the expense of hiring neutral experts to help with your negotiation. Real estate appraisers, financial advisors, and child development experts all help make a divorce as beneficial as possible for everyone involved.

Most importantly, mediation spares your children the pain of court litigation. The exposure and pain that court battles cause can lead to years of psychological trauma—mediation puts you and your spouse on the same side, working toward a common goal. Even if you have a hard time communicating with your spouse, the mediator can help you both find a way to come together.

Flexible agreements, less expenses, and far less harm to your children or yourself. There’s a reason some courts mandate mediation before litigation can begin—the advantages it offers can save you years of heartache, pain, and misunderstanding.

If you have questions about mediation, divorce, child custody, or any family law subject, call Flanagan & Associates—as a highly-rated Quincy divorce lawyer, I have the experience to guide you through your divorce effectively and as smoothly as possible.

Categories: Divorce, Family Law